I still like salmon. Just make sure over time they don't start pulling to those spots! If it were a worse reaction I might say something, but right now I dont. I had to take it to the cleaners to get that smell. It smells like unwashed bodies with bad b.o. I just wanted to thank you for being considerate to your coworker and refraining from wearing your perfumes to work. Ive also been wearing my oils since I started, and she only just complained about it a month ago. Lets see if we can narrow down where/what it is.. I inhale the mindblowing smells and sandals I also lick, but only the inner soles where the pretty feet have met the . Usually trying to clear the flood and congestion by blowing my nose is like trying to slam a logjam through the eye of a needle. putting an end to your runny nose. He doesnt wear cologne, and keeps up his hygiene (and doesnt use mothballs). Fine. He serves as the Studio's sports and recreation section expert. They feel so over-the-top as to be completely unreasonable to ask of a coworker. Another coworker can have an anaphylactic reaction to some scents. If you yell at them to run, theyll tell you youre crazy, rude, whatever. You and your boss need to be on the same page about whether this is a scent issue that you need to solve or an annoying co-worker issue that your boss and co-worker need to solve. I had a problem like this a long time (6 years) ago I found it finally went away when I reduced the stress in my life and got treatment from several alternative health practitioners: regular massage, kinesiology and chiropractic treatments and that eventually allowed my body to relax and eventually the sniffing reduced and disappeared. I started in the last year of primary school, I also drive my family insane and myself it's so irritating, it's as if I can't breathe and my nose is inflamed or tight and I need to sniff to clear it even though there's nothing there, it's really embarrassing and it tried loads of nasal sprays and even been to ent had a camera up my nose but he couldn't see anything. Now I don't know what to do. I got wicked food poisoning from Italian wedding soup with kale. I guess people who are sensitive to it can smell it long after use. Thats so interesting! Every. Press J to jump to the feed. My officemate has an odd personal smell that reminds me of mothballs and old man. Plus I like the scents I have. Shes never complained before now about my perfume, and Im sure she would mention if she was having health issues based on it. Youve done whats reasonable at this point. Oh trust me, I've been trying to get a private office for years. If she tries cornering you and directly accusing you, you just shrug your shoulders confused and say you dont know how you can help her solve her problem of the phantom scent. (Ive had a lot of practice). They just arent my preference, but barring a health related consequence of great severity, I would never dream of asking anyone to change their scent of choice. Ive heard that she is now complaining about someone else I used to work with. This was my initial thought as well. They figure X wasnt so hard, so X+1 shouldnt be a big deal either. Dont even turn your head. It can provide an. You can couch it as youd think itd be a good idea of someone checked up on him (and gently let him know that the noise is carrying). No. Wow! Two, if youve been using these scents for a long time, odds are good that your house or apt smells like them, too, and its going to take a while for the old smell of you to fade. I dont think your co-worker is being very kind and you have gone out of your way to accommodate her, but it is possible that a patchouli scent (no offense, but I hate that smell so much I wont even walk into a store where I can smell it) is lingering in your clothes? On the plus side, I did learn how to ask for anti-histimine cream and tablets in Spanish. Maybe your coworker is just rude, but if blowing my nose would fix the problem, I would do it. The worst, though, is that my hair picks up smells like no ones business and will smell like cig smoke even if I just walk past a group of people smoking. Surely people grow out of this shortly after high school, surely a grown adult wouldnt comment on someones smell unless it was bothering them. Sigh. But Id be pretty cranky if someone at work told me I had to stop using some hygiene product unless it was REALLY egregiously strong-smelling (looking at you, beloved Soap and Glory lotion that I wont wear in public). As such, burping and sniffing are not likely listed in your handbook. But even if this is the case, the co-worker is not handling it in an appropriate way, and OP shouldnt have to put up with Mean Girls style bullying about it. Once that boundary is understood, you can use that to have a productive discussion with the coworker. There might be something in the building that nobody is aware of. Blondie batter? There are other ways to work this outside besides demanding that OP never comes into contact with anything remotely scented. I like the good humor and kindness with which youre responding :). Stop using the lemon-scented body wash for a few days and see if she keeps making the comments. At that point, I think the OP can justifiably say that shes done what she can do, and if further accommodations are needed, the coworker needs to sort that out with their employer, not with OP. Thats rough, though I hope you can work it out. Its too bad because it is important not to question people about things like allergies, but as soon as somebody realizes nobodys allowed to do so..also I think its worse with smells because telling somebody they smell is a very personal, emotional thing So if someone realizes they can get at someone like that, while covering it up with oh, my allergies! then its going to happen. I didnt want to go there, but I had that thought too. At Thanksgiving, people give me a look when I say I dont like turkey very much. Every action is . Im a grown-up, so I wouldnt do that, but oh, Lord, would I want to. No flowers, no lotions, no perfumes, no candles, wallflowers, diffusers, etc. They were everywhere. True, but even the boss shouldnt be expected to get dressed in the garage. Especially since she mentioned using oils if the oils get onto fabric, they may be especially persistent and OP may not even notice at all anymore. Go stand in the snow for a bit and it will seem so nice and toasty in here when you come back!. Diversion. I think shes using bother in the I dont like it sense. Im going to ask that we stop with those suggestions now and instead focus on how she should deal with the coworker, which I think will be more helpful to her. It's driving me crazy at times. for seejay above: I didnt mean to make it seem like I find you or your smell disgusting. Ive had this happen with arm rests and scented lotions. Washing with unscented or mildly-scented bath productsmaybe reasonable, depending sometimes the only shampoo/conditioner that works well for someones hair has an unavoidable scent and I dont think its reasonable to expect someone to figure out an entire new hair routine (which is a process that takes time and money and trial and error, not to mention bad hair days in the interim, with the concomitant hit to self-esteem that may cause) to accommodate a coworker. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. Thats right up there with You think its cold in here? Agree. Specifically that yogurt, not just any frozen yogurt. Do people react to you by naming off all the different kinds of cheese that surely you would love if I just tried it? Theres no way that none of them have even one Powder Fresh or Ocean Breeze or Fresh Cotton or Freesia Delight product in their lives. It's best left up to the manager. :) All in all, its just frustrating when youve done everything to accommodate someone and they are still abrasive. :(, He even complained once a full year! She stunk two coworkers cars, a 2-hour townhall meeting, the cinema, and after a brisk walk outside. It turns out I suffer from ocd i am on medication for it. My one and only true hangover. Maybe if I just put the lotion in my nose. It is however, possible to have a runny nose, water eyes, etc., due to a scent, but these are not life threatening. Every time this happens I go through a spate of cleaning everything and thinking I smell pee ALL THE TIME. I so rarely tell anyone if their perfume or whatever bothers me (especially since it is often some other product that it scentedpeople who use scented detergents can smell really strongly to me) because it seems so loaded. One option would be to talk to your manager. Or, if OP isnt the type to be cold at work, perhaps a fan set on low that could blow the scented air away from the coworker? Im not trying to like, lecture you, but I really think more people should be made aware of just HOW BAD Febreeze is. I wonder if you can narrow it down to a certain article of clothing that really has held onto the smell. Yes Tom Ford has a fragrance called White Patchouli that I refer to as my rich hippie perfume. Im super-sensitive to the smell of tobacco smoke, but this does go to show you that it can linger in unexpected places. I saw Gordon Ramsay once tell a team member of a struggling restaurant that he had bad breath. All the time. Download Article. Then again, here the people rocking the strong scents tend to be older and more senior in the organization. I would not send her to HR, they are likely to be the dingbats that will turn it back on you. Your coworker may just be associating you with whatever smell she didnt like before. And one year when I was a broke college student, the place where I worked had basically an endless supply of get a meal 1/2 off coupons from Moes, which was next door to the store and made it the cheapest full meal I could get most days. If they are lucky, someone else will make it, or if they wait long enough, the decision will make itself. OP tell your coworker that youve done all you will do and to knock it off. Belts, scarves, sweaters, jackets, coats, purses, and shoes can easily have scent embedded. Morning all. I was so sick that night. So They made a make shift area in a corner wth an old desk and asked me if I Never again! Used only a little, but it took four washes to get most of the scent out of my clothing. Say nothing. Since I am one of those super sensitive people, I can say I have smelled things strongly that my friends and family cannot smell at all. This is my biggest hurdle. I have allergies and am sensitive to smells (I get migraines, I once had trouble with hives on my arms due to a cleaner used on desks), but the thing is, this is my thing to deal with and while I can ask for reasonableness from other people, it ends at a point. Does she police every individual in the office? But it also brings up the question of why the coworker all of a sudden has fragrance sensitivities if last month was the first time it was brought up. As her supervisor, you do not have the (extremely tempting) option of being passive. (and frankly, it is no longer OPs problem to address. First it was people smacking gum, then chewing crunchy foods with their mouth open, and now its almost any audible chewing sounds at all. Exactly this is someone whos enjoying her petty little power trip and bending OP to their will, is how its coming off to me. I get youI dont like the taste of turkey. But what if she likes patchouli? Sadly, lots of people fall for this. Shampoo? they may be still carrying your scented oil. Offensive even. Consideration and empathy cut both ways. Its entirely possible that your chair or coat have absorbed the smell, and you might not even recognize it. It just seems to cross a boundary of reasonableness. Either way, your coworker is being a jerk. And if the comments dont stop, then you can legitimately say that you have cut out all scented products and it hasnt changed anything. I wont eat it because when I worked at Golden Corral in college, way before they became a buffet, we used curly kale leaves to decorate the salad bar (they were sturdier than lettuce). Personally, I'm a fan of the SimplyNoise generatorspecifically the brown/red noise with an oscillating volume level. OP has done put in a ton of effort to alleviate the smell. It's a personal issue and you won't like it but it needs addressing and I don't want you to react badly OK? Its your co-workers responsibility to go to their supervisor with a request for accommodation, doing the formal form filled out by a physician versus going to you each time she doesnt like the way you smells when you have done everything that you can do to accommodate her. I dont think she does, but I think she does genuinely believe that the OP is still wearing perfume. However, genuine allergic reactions arent necessarily going to manifest in front of their sourceits not all doubling over in the moment. Ill take your share of cheese, please! Say this to your boss: Ever since Jane mentioned a month ago that a perfume I was wearing bothered her, Ive made a big effort to ensure Im not wearing anything scented around her. It sounds like you have misophonia. I am not excusing the coworkers behavior, but she may be reacting poorly to the frustration of her condition. I cant stand it. OK, you are unlikely to see this, but I *love* chicken. It can linger for a really long time and washing with unscented detergent may not do the trick. We got fried chicken and rode the train home together . I hope this works out and she backs off, but either way, as a scent-sitive person, thank you so much for going through all this effort. Either way, OP certainly doesnt want to make matters worse so she probably shouldnt try it! Advertising on our site helps support our mission. I didn't do it to annoy others. If your clothes are synthetic, that could be the culprit. But talk to your Dr. That could be the diagnoses. In addition to all of the good advice above, I think it also might be worth it to get a second opinion. i'll pass the info along, it's really appreciated! I recommend using those products only with direction from your doctor., Nasal obstruction. Ugh. They use the exact same floral fragrance as the chemical camping toilet we used at our (no-running-water) mountain cabin when I was a kid. Theyre advertising is hilarious but humans have been emitting bathroom smells since well forever. Unscented soaps, lotions, body washes, deodorants, laundry detergents, and dishwasher detergents are all easier to find than unscented shampoo. And certain West African men wear cologne. I lost a week of my life once because my husband used one of their plug ins. Youve done your fair share in this situation, she is the one lacking. They ruin maple ice cream for them? Humidifier helped me, enormously with my constant sniffling!!! Im not going to never use it ever because of that. If the coworker is genuinely still reacting to something (which sounds questionable), then she should address it in a more productive way that acknowledges what youve already done. Theres also a possibility that the scent is still retained by her body (though I dont know I feel thats true for patchouli and her coworker would have to be incredibly sensitive). Is it at all possible that after a long time of using scents theyre settled into a chair or the office? Get queasy even smelling it/seeing the bottle. Strangely my sound sensitivity is particularly acute with my wife and my son. I only wash my hair about once a week and I know that youre probably saying AH HA! (Sometimes I feel like a hypochondriac, since I have so many medical conditions, but I swear Im not! He says patchouli makes him sick and we were staying at a house that used patchouli Landry detergent. I'm glad she's miserable about being single. My workplace has had a no-scent policy for a while, though it seems to be enforced only when people complain. I havent used anything patchouli-scented in weeks/months/whatever! Youve taken all reasonable steps mitigate this and shes being extraordinarily inappropriate with you. Its not bad, its just hey, you smell like your mom. Shes done more than is reasonable. OK, thats fine and I can handle that. Oh man every time I see someone on here who has sniffling as a trigger I feel a little guilty. Do you have a sweater or jacket that you wear on a regular basis that you keep in your office? That doesnt keep the other odors from actually entering, though; it just overpowers them. Exactly. Toronto-based journalist William McCoy has been writing since 1997, specializing in topics such as sports, nutrition and health. The following Monday, though, I noticed the scent was strong again, so commented to her about it. Here's how to tell if one or more of your coworkers are toxic: 1. They are everywhere and they are stronger and longer lasting. not wearing perfume to work). Now I want to go looking for a nice lemon perfume, though. Im mostly fine with Irish Spring soap, which has a pretty heavy fragrance that makes me sneeze occasionally, but when I ran out recently and had to use a bar of a more lightly-scented soap that was supposed to be good for sensitive skin, I started breaking out in hives. You see, it seemed the more I tried to accommodate, the more entitled she felt to make me accommodate her even more. I think OP has already made a strong effort to accommodate her coworkers sensitivity, and I get a whiff (heh) that the situation is not even about that anymore. Your co-worker sounds like shes being a bit difficult and imposing unrealistic expectations on the OP. My yoga mat under my desk? The first day I used it, I almost retched in the shower. Hopefully shell decide its too embarrassing to continue on with her charade if there are no more items left for her to be offended by. I remember being at a conference and requesting that the organizers make some sort of announcement asking people not to spray perfume in the conference areas. Makes weird noises. Sorry, I scented was an autocorrectI wrote unscented. Ten points to Gryffindor! The vinegar smell has always washed for me, but I know some people who add 1-2 drops of EO to add some lavender/peppermint scent to it, but that opens the door to other complaints anyways. For some reason, your colleague has become unreasonably fixated on you being the sole cause. It ends up sounding very similar to waves at the ocean, which would also probably work well for . I dont wear it often (I find it soothing and will sometimes put a little on in the evening, just on my wrist and just for me). Are still abrasive your colleague has become unreasonably fixated on you being sole. 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